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Steve Schlafman

Exec coach. Writer. Student of Change.

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Lightwaves #006: The $10,000 Hat

Hello from Stone Ridge, NY. Before paternity leave comes to an end, my family and I managed to escape the city for a week to enjoy the beginning of fall, my favorite season. I’m a different person when I’m upstate surrounded by woods. I could feel my nervous

Lightwaves #006: The $10,000 Hat
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Lightwaves #005: Ambition Shifts

Good morning, and greetings from New York City! Our newborn, Flo, just turned two weeks old and we’re still getting used to our new life with two kids. Most importantly, she and mama are healthy, and everything has gone as well as we could have hoped. We’re so

Lightwaves #005: Ambition Shifts
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Lightwaves #004: A Symphony of Parts Anticipating Change

The baby has arrived! On Tuesday night, Florence Ruby Schlafman entered the world and joined our family. Flo and mama are doing great. We’re already sleep deprived but madly in love 💕 When I wrote this earlier in the week, I was still sitting in sitting in the liminal space

Lightwaves #004: A Symphony of Parts Anticipating Change
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Sailing in the Present Towards the Future

Imagine you’re in the middle of the Pacific Ocean on a perfect day with sunbeams and a gentle breeze engulfing you, the captain of a majestic 100-foot sailboat with a towering mast and massive sails that can propel you to any destination on the planet. It’s just you,

Sailing in the Present Towards the Future
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Lightwaves #003: Sitting in Liminal Space

Greetings from New York City! My family and I have spent the last few months in upstate New York, and have come back to the metropolis to finish the summer and welcome our new daughter. Being back in the city has provided a jolt of energy and ambition, despite the

Lightwaves #003: Sitting in Liminal Space
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Navigating Our Lostness

A few weeks ago I was on a meditation retreat in upstate New York. On the first night, preparing to observe silence the next day, I stood in a dark hallway talking with Jonathan, a prominent psychoanalyst. Behind us, a soft red glow from the EXIT sign above the door,

Navigating Our Lostness
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Lightwaves #002: Beyond the Struggle

Good morning from Stone Ridge, New York. I’m spending the next week upstate surrounded by nature before heading back to the city to prepare for our second child’s arrival on August 30th. There are big and wonderful changes on the horizon for my family and me, and I’

Lightwaves #002: Beyond the Struggle
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Lightwaves #001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊

For the last seven years, I’ve been focused on my own development, immersed in learning about change, transformation, consciousness, mindfulness, coaching, psychology, human development, philosophy, spirituality, and writing. Though I’m regularly writing longer essays about many of these themes, much of what I learn, think about, and write

Lightwaves #001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊
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How I Found My Heart In Five Days

Last week I participated in a five day meditation retreat, Becoming Bodhisattvas, at the Garrison Institute in Garrison, NY, just 50 miles from New York City. Their mission is to apply the transformative power of contemplation to today’s pressing social and environmental concerns, helping build a more compassionate, resilient

How I Found My Heart In Five Days
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When Our Fire Stops Burning

I could hear the hum of traffic outside our Flatiron office—sirens, horns, and idle engines—and I might as well have been outside instead of the four hour “partner meeting” I was in. Packed like the Holland Tunnel at rush hour with twelve of my colleagues in a white

When Our Fire Stops Burning