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Schlaf |  Conscious & Compassionate Change

👋🏼 Hi there, I'm Steve Schlafman.

I'm a coach and writer based in NYC. I help highly ambitious and creative people answer who am I really, what do I truly want, and where do I go from here?

I also publish essays and a newsletter called Lightwaves which explores conscious and compassionate change. My mission is to help you know yourself and create a life that aligns with your deepest values, desires, and resources.

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Lightwaves #001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊

For the last seven years, I’ve been focused on my own development, immersed in learning about change, transformation, consciousness, mindfulness, coaching, psychology, human development, philosophy, spirituality, and writing. Though I’m regularly writing longer essays about many of these themes, much of what I learn, think about, and write

Lightwaves #001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊
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The Stranger and the Rolex

> Don't you look at me so smug And say I'm going bad Who are you to judge me And the life that I live? I know that I'm not perfect And that I don't claim to be So, before you point your fingers Be sure your hands are clean —Bob

The Stranger and the Rolex
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We Are Multiple: Discovering The Many Parts of Yourself

> Get to know that beast within Give him love and bring him in No, not an enemy, but a friend -Nick Mulvey, A Prayer of My Own [https://open.spotify.com/track/4T9huHkcSekxse5hkJA8UD?si=e98ca2c6cb9e4700] As I dipped into a deep meditative state and the visualization began, I was suddenly

We Are Multiple: Discovering The Many Parts of Yourself

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How Did You End Up Here?

Today I turn 43. Each October in the days leading up to my birthday, I carve out time to reflect on the changes I made, what I’ve learned, and who I’ve become in the past year. This isn’t as intensive as my annual review process, but it’

How Did You End Up Here?
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Lightwaves #006: The $10,000 Hat

Hello from Stone Ridge, NY. Before paternity leave comes to an end, my family and I managed to escape the city for a week to enjoy the beginning of fall, my favorite season. I’m a different person when I’m upstate surrounded by woods. I could feel my nervous

Lightwaves #006: The $10,000 Hat
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Lightwaves #005: Ambition Shifts

Good morning, and greetings from New York City! Our newborn, Flo, just turned two weeks old and we’re still getting used to our new life with two kids. Most importantly, she and mama are healthy, and everything has gone as well as we could have hoped. We’re so

Lightwaves #005: Ambition Shifts