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Schlaf |  Conscious & Compassionate Change

👋🏼 Hi there, I'm Steve Schlafman

I'm a professional coach and writer based in NYC. I left my career as a VC to help founders, creators and leaders evolve, discover their next big thing, and bring their vision to life.

I also publish essays and a newsletter called Lightwaves which explores conscious and compassionate change. My mission is to be a good human who helps ambitious people thrive and create a multi-dimensional life that aligns with their innate values, desires and capabilities.

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#010: The Ultimate Annual Review

Happy Friday from Stone Ridge, NY. My family and I are spending the week up here, and I’m so excited to be out of the city—there’s nowhere else I’d rather be than up in the Catskills. While I’m on break, I plan to spend hours

#010: The Ultimate Annual Review
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Rethinking Ambition

“Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, the true kingdom for each one of us; and true progress is to know more, and be more, and to do more.” –John Lubbock, The Use Of Life Ambition is a polarizing word these days. On the heels of the Great Resignation, think

Rethinking Ambition
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#001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊

For the last seven years, I’ve been focused on my own development, immersed in learning about change, transformation, consciousness, mindfulness, coaching, psychology, human development, philosophy, spirituality, and writing. Though I’m regularly writing longer essays about many of these themes, much of what I learn, think about, and write

#001: Introducing Lightwaves💡🌊
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The Stranger and the Rolex

> Don't you look at me so smug And say I'm going bad Who are you to judge me And the life that I live? I know that I'm not perfect And that I don't claim to be So, before you point your fingers Be sure your hands are clean —Bob

The Stranger and the Rolex
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We Are Multiple: Discovering The Many Parts of Yourself

> Get to know that beast within Give him love and bring him in No, not an enemy, but a friend -Nick Mulvey, A Prayer of My Own [https://open.spotify.com/track/4T9huHkcSekxse5hkJA8UD?si=e98ca2c6cb9e4700] As I dipped into a deep meditative state and the visualization began, I was suddenly

We Are Multiple: Discovering The Many Parts of Yourself

Recent Posts

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#011: Acceptance as Change

Hello from the Catskills. I wasn’t expecting to write this issue from upstate New York, but I was thrown several curve balls the past two weeks. A few days before Thanksgiving, my eldest daughter, Faye, tested positive for COVID, and the two of us separated from my wife and

#011: Acceptance as Change
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#009: Turning Points

Hello from Manhattan. Our newborn, Flo, is now smiling, tracking movements, and looking at her hands. I love seeing her consciousness come online and her personality begin to emerge. She’s changing a little bit every day, and I’m grateful that I’m able to witness this transformation and

#009: Turning Points
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#008: Starting a Solo Lifestyle Business

Hello from Tribeca. I spent the first half of the week upstate with my family, enjoying peak foliage and the crisp autumn air. Seeing red, orange and yellow dot the mountains never gets old, and reminds me of playing in piles of leaves as a kid in New England. Transition

#008: Starting a Solo Lifestyle Business